tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-82295917041489787112024-02-20T09:40:40.946-08:00The Pastor's WifeThe Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-48578012500031232512019-09-01T10:18:00.000-07:002019-09-01T10:18:20.124-07:00<br />
<b><i>The Pastor's Wife: </i></b><br />
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I am sharing these 2 letters from Pastors Wives.<br />
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<b>A Letter from - FRUSTRATIONS FROM A PASTOR'S WIFE</b><br />
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I hate this life. I was never asked or given any input. I never am. I better obey or I’ll be punished bc Sarah called Abraham lord and I need to be like her. I played along for too long. It is so bad that I just feel like going to heaven is the best option and leaving this all behind. He blames me for everything the ministry not growing it’s my fault, the house not clean it’s my fault, we don’t have money it’s my fault. I so want to leave. I try to share my feelings with him he never understands and I’m so confused and crazy don’t know what I’m talking about I’m shut down and told I need to obey him bc he is the husband. He treats me like an object only hugs me when he wants sex. Only tells me nice things when he’s getting sex. He undermines me in front of the children all the time. He thinks because he is the husband and godly male in his family that everyone disobeys him and won’t get blessed bc we don’t do what he says. I can’t seek out to do anything I like unless he approves it and has to do it for me. He pretends to give me options only to override them and then tell me I have to do what he says bc he is the husband and the wife should seek to do whatever the husband’s call is. He belittles me shakes his head at me. If I say anything around his family or his boss then he gives me demeaning looks and will not speak to me for days, only if he has to preach the next day. He always angry and never satisfied with me. I better not be too tired to not get the children dressed or dinner or else I’m a low down dirty shame. And he compares my every move with his upbringing and how his grandmother and mom did things and I better not even try to implement anything from my side bc they don’t know what they are doing bc they have an education or jobs. It hurts. He’ll ignore me until it’s time for him to preach. Then the next day the treatment starts all over again. He tells me I need to shut up and go pray and read my Bible. I feel so complex bc I don’t want to even be close to God bc I feel like He is constantly punishing me and then he’ll rub it in my face when I’m faced with sickness and I haven’t had a job in ten years and it’s bc of what I don’t do for him and what he tells me. . I took a stand (I tried to). I’m not doing anymore for the church administratively he doesn’t appreciate anything I do. But when I seek out counsel he plays it off and acts like he so respectful and “I’m not the problem” but yet he isolates me and throws it in my face when he’s mad which is all the time so I’ll never reach out again bc I know I’ll be shamed for it. He makes sure to laugh and tickle and play with the children to make sure I know he is happy without me. And he is the pastor, I am the wife and I’m not taking that from him anymore-this is what I think but I’m so weak and don’t have my own identity. I’ve been punished so if he wants to throw that I’m cursed around then let it be so. I don’t have anyone to talk to. He fixes his messages to make sure he puts me in my place and let me know I am only the wife and they are to be submissive. It hurts so much I question if God even loves me. I really don’t even know. I turn to Him but I know my bitterness and disappointment won’t allow him to be close to be close to him. Yet if you see me I smile and put on a happy face bc it’s my job but I’ll keep trying. Sometimes I need validation that I am enough. We haven’t been on a date in 5 years bc the childre can’t go with anyone bc he is the father and can’t nobody watch his children. Those are his children and they do what he says or else. He makes sure to remind me of this. He has a skill to find scriptures to make me feel bad and never takes ownership of being a scriptural husband but only in a way that is comical and not serious. I’ve had enough and I’m asking for prayer with me. My hope is so dim. I can’t tell anyone or else I’ll be labeled weak and won’t be lifted up like the other pastors wives. I don’t want to be But it makes him look good so I’ll try to keep making him look good.So confusing.<br />
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<b>A reply letter from a fellow pastor's wife to FRUSTRATIONS FROM A PASTOR'S WIFE says</b><br />
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My heart is breaking for you… to bear the abuse of a supposed “man of God” is such a difficult position…. and that is what it is… abuse. I am married to a pastor and struggle with depression and my husband having time, compassion, and understanding for everyone that asks for it except me. I start to think I am the problem, I am a failure, and everyone would be better off without me… That is a lie of Satan I listen and believe more often then I should. Truth is… my husband is a sinner, your husband is a sinner… We must learn not to look at our husbands to determine our worth, but just our Father in heaven whose love know no bounds! It is so hard to remember as we can become isolated and our spiritual life suffers. Your husband is not being held accountable for his sins and abuse. He has a false understanding of God’s Word and how a husband is to treat a wife. Please find someone outside your church to speak to and confide in. Stay in scripture so you will not be fooled by you husband’s lies and twisting of our Lord’s words. Focus on serving as God calls you, as a mother, wife, and your service for Him in the church(as you feel led) Though man may judge, the Lord only sees you as PERFECT because he sees you through the sacrifice of Jesus. He may allow us to go through difficult times, but it is not out of punishment. Sadly hard times are there because there is sin in this world, and we will not be rid of them until God calls us to Him. I prayed for you this evening for the Lord to give you comfort, strength, guidance, and that you can place your hope and faith in God to carry you. God Bless you.<br />
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The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-91984034995564762432019-05-29T08:36:00.001-07:002019-05-29T08:36:34.421-07:00<b>The Pastor's Wife: <i><u>A Special Anointing</u></i></b><br />
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There is a special anointing on a Pastor's Wife. This anointing is not only for her to live out or to map out her own path of ministry that God has ordained for her, but its also to help to uphold the calling on her husband's life. She has been blessed with the ability of staying power. In other words, she has the ability of stamina to maintain an activity or commitment despite fatigue or difficulty.<br />
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Many don't realise that by the time her husband ministers the gospel to God's people, she has already fulfilled her role by praying, encouraging and inspiring her husband to minister. So, therefore, the special anointing which enables the gift of blessings to flow from her is firstly found in the Pastor's Wife.<br />
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Stay blessed!<br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-82928470471844762122019-04-11T06:36:00.000-07:002019-04-11T06:39:25.914-07:00The Pastor's Wife:What is your white elephant?The Pastor's Wife:What is your white elephant?<br />
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There are many stuff that we don't like to talk about. Issues that we ignore. It has been going on for months, some years, but nobody talks about it. Its that white elephant in the room that stares at you, nags at you, stresses you, scares you, totally overwhelms you and renders you powerless.<br />
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You become so brave over the months and years, that when you walk into that house, room, office, wherever your white elephant is, that you have now 'mastered' or you have become so 'institutionalised', you now know how you walk, talk and act, while in the presence of the white elephant.<br />
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What is your White Elephant?<br />
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God does not want you to feel overwhelmed by your White Elephant. When you understand the Word of God and how the Kingdom of God works, no fear of a White Elephant can grip you. You are free because of who God is in your life. You are free to think, free to talk, free to live and free to grow.<br />
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Stay strong and blessed.<br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-32392376040643143552019-04-01T06:06:00.002-07:002019-04-01T06:06:40.778-07:00The Pastor's Wife: Think about -Who said it?<br />
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There are many voices that one hears everyday. There are some that are negative and cruel, some that only supports you for their own gain, some that really hates you for being you. Then there are those who really takes the time to consistently break you down and say:<br />
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<span style="font-family: sans-serif;">...that you are nothing?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: sans-serif;">...</span><span style="font-family: sans-serif;">you are second hand?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: sans-serif;">...</span><span style="font-family: sans-serif;">that you don't matter?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: sans-serif;">...you are not beautiful?</span><span style="font-family: sans-serif;"> </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: sans-serif;">...you are no good?</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: sans-serif;">...there life would be better without you?</span><br />
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Think about WHO SAID IT. They are normally people who have been hurt themselves and have low self image challenges and really don't know how to relate to others who are kind hearted, loving and always helpful. Having the characteristics and personality to show a nurturing and caring attitude, scares those who cannot be like you. Don't change who God has made you to be.<br />
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So, the best thing you can do is PRAY for WHO SAID IT, and you will see how God makes the necessary changes.<br />
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God bless!<br />
Lynne<br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-5128185139252174212019-03-08T03:37:00.002-08:002019-03-08T03:37:54.880-08:00Think YOU! On this International Womens Day<b><i>The Pastor's Wife: Think YOU</i></b>! on this International Womens Day<br />
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Yes, Think You! Don't you dare give yourself a second thought. You have given so much of yourself to family, friends, colleagues etc. Its time to Think of YOU! There is nothing wrong with putting yourself first for a change and just letting go of everyone else's stuff.<br />
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You are not being s.e.l.f.i.s.h. You are just paying attention to s.e.l.f. Go for it!<br />
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Take a Walk...<br />
Have a Cup of Tea for One - that's you...<br />
Eat a slice of chocolate cake for breakfast, lunch and supper - Yippee hooray for YOU!<br />
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Have a Think YOU... day!<br />
<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-16999874496313745972019-03-05T11:41:00.001-08:002019-03-05T11:41:23.001-08:00The Pastor's Wife:The Power of the front row seat!<br />
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Its somehow become an expectation that the Pastor's Wife always sits in the power of the front row seat. The power of the front row seat should not be underestimated as just a seat in the front row. It comes with many advantages and disadvantages. The first advantage is, it gives you accessibility to things compared to someone else that will never have the opportunity to sit in the power of the front row seat. It takes a special person who has a calling upon her life to sit in this powerful front row seat. A Pastor's Wife understands and works within that accountability and power of the front row seat. It is indeed not easy to sit in the front row seat.<br />
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You are welcome to share your thoughts of what kinds of accessibility there is!<br />
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Be blessed!<br />
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Lynne Johnson Wareley<br />
(a pastor's wife sitting in the power of the front row seat!)<br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-6362665893215173162019-02-20T10:45:00.000-08:002019-02-20T10:45:03.260-08:00The Pastor's Wife: A joyful heart is a peaceful life!<b style="background-color: orange;">The Pastor's Wife: A joyful heart is a peaceful life!</b><br />
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A joyful heart always brings a smile to someone else<br />
A joyful heart always brings out the best in others<br />
A joyful heart always seeks to mend broken hearts<br />
A joyful heart always speaks of kindness<br />
A joyful heart is always creative<br />
A joyful heart never rejoices in the hurts of others<br />
A joyful heart is a peaceful life!<br />
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<span style="background-color: #ffd966; color: #222222; font-family: arial, sans-serif; font-size: x-small;"><b><i>Romans 15:13</i></b>. May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.</span><br />
<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-1940296739923849902018-11-10T23:20:00.000-08:002018-11-10T23:24:01.645-08:00The Pastor's Wife: So, you don't like your Pastor's Wife?<br />
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It's not that you don't like your Pastor's Wife, its more to do with your Understanding of how God is working in you to rid yourself from a deep self, so that God can fill you with HIS presence, because He loves you that much. The impact of being full of dislike of other people leads to more negative emotions and it ultimately leads you to bitterness.<br />
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Spend time with your Pastor's Wife and you will realise that there is so much more to her than what you think. As much challenges as you have in your life, so does the Pastor's Wife.<br />
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The Pastor's Wife is funny, she loves to laugh, she loves people, she gives so much of her time to everybody.<br />
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So, the next time you see your Pastor's Wife, just give her a hug!The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-44426971987652761192018-09-13T04:45:00.001-07:002018-09-13T04:49:23.063-07:00The Pastor's Wife: Her Battles!<br />
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Please Pray for her to be comforted in Word:<br />
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Psalm 119:28,52<br />
My soul melteth for heaviness:strengthen thou me according unto thy Word" (v28)<br />
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"When I think of your rules from of old, I take comfort, O Lord." (v52)<br />
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The Pastor's Wife would very often hesitate to do the things that she is called by God to do. She has an inward battle that she fights everyday. She is human after all.<br />
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Its not easy for her to find someone to talk to. She does not share all of who she is as a person. She does not share all of her dreams. She takes care with whom she shares her funny, happy, sad and profound moments. She shares only her deepest moments with one person she trusts. She faces many challenges in her marriage, with her children and in her ministry and/or secular work.<br />
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Yet, she freely gives of her time, gifts, talent and skills to those whom she loves and knows. She yearns to see others succeed. She is there when others fail and she encourages and lifts their spirit forward.<br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-70727533744210843922018-09-01T06:18:00.001-07:002018-09-01T06:18:43.515-07:00The Pastor's Wife: Regrets<br />
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Regrets will always take you back to the past.<br />
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If you forget, then your circumstances, people, family and friends will subtly remind you.<br />
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Its sad to think, there will always be more people criticising you than encouraging you!<br />
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Don't sit on your pain of regrets.<br />
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Don't nurture it. Don't love it!<br />
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Don't depend on it to make you feel alive.<br />
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Don't give it more attention than your future.<br />
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<span style="font-family: sans-serif;">Its up to you what you learn from your regrets going forward.</span><br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-62901995424210214532018-08-22T16:10:00.003-07:002018-08-22T16:10:34.802-07:00The Pastor's Wife: She is a gift<br />
"I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." Psalm 139:14<br />
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She was created...<br />
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Fearfully meaning: exceptionally, extremely, exceedingly, remarkably, uncommonly, extraordinarily, incredibly, most, very, really, immensely, thoroughly, positively, decidedly...<br />
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Wonderfully meaning: a miracle, a marvel, excites or calls forth wonder...<br />
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She already comes prepared with amazing abilities and gifts. Her gifts are meant to be of service to God's people, and yet some of the people choose not to receive and appreciate her.<br />
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God, Jehovah Jireh, the Giver of the Gift did not forget as to why He sent the Pastor's Wife to serve His people.<br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-3610210377548906362018-08-08T04:44:00.000-07:002018-08-09T12:24:42.823-07:00The Pastor's Wife: Why I left...<br />
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The expectation of the Pastor's wife being involved with everything in the Church still happens today, irrespective of whether she enjoys what she is called to do or not.<br />
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The reality of the Pastor and his wife being full time in the ministry of pastoring a church is a sad and unspoken case of getting two for the price of one scenario. There is so much more to this scenario, that it becomes emotionally taxing, physically draining and spiritually susceptible.<br />
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I found that as important as it is for the Pastor's wife having the need to continously please her husband/pastor and the Church in everything, is not always the best thing to do.<br />
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This is the reason why its important to prioritise what you want and need to do and it will lead you to leave some things.The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-34068239448653389332018-08-01T15:10:00.000-07:002018-08-01T15:14:49.965-07:00The Pastor's Wife: Doubt out!<br />
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The doubt you experience is from the enemy. Doubt is always fake!<br />
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There are so many reasons why we as the Pastor's Wife would doubt most things that we do. We continously doubt in who we are as a woman. Doubt is subtle and a crafty foe that patiently waits with every hurtful remark you hear. It is amazing how we know and hate that doubt is a challenge, but we still allow it to manipulate our mind and our lifestyle.<br />
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The scripture says it clearly in Romans 7:15 "I really dont understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don't do it. Instead I do what I hate".<br />
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We must realise that the effects of doubt, affects the people around us. The saddest part of this realisation is that there are some people in our life that notices our doubt and the action that follows and they rejoice in our failures.<br />
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Whatever our reason might be for our doubt in our mind, it is so deep that we wonder if we ever going to get out of the "hell hole". <br />
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If our battles don't challenge us, we will never taste victory and never experience a doubt free, righteous living.<br />
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In Jeremiah 32:27 "I am the Lord, the God of all the peoples in the world. Is anything too hard for me?" As a result of who God is in our lives, we receive and have understanding in who we are as a woman. <br />
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This will empower us to respond with a right mind and everything else will follow. Our response will be different. Our circumstances will be right. Our atmosphere will be better and our hearts will healthier. <br />
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So be encouraged and doubt it out!<br />
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Stay blessed!The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-47406766589007032362018-07-26T12:03:00.000-07:002018-07-26T12:03:07.132-07:00The Pastor's Wife: The Invisible Wife<br />
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What? It cannot be that the Pastor's wife feels that way, would some people say. She is always in church, sitting alone in the front row seat, which is most of the time. As usual, the Pastor gets all the attention.<br />
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Feeling invisible is part of the price of being in the ministry. It does not define who you are, but it certainly describes whose you are. But how you respond to it matters much. You cannot allow what you are exposed to, to make you feel less that what God says about you.<br />
Psalm 139:17-18 How precious are your thoughts about me, O God. They cannot be numbered! I can't even count them; they out number the grains of sand! And when I wake up you are still with me! NLT<br />
These two verses describe two things about God :<br />
How almighty God is and that God just doesn't love us, He's obsessed with us.<br />
Be encouraged that you are not invisible, you are not alone in the front row seat. The Holy Spirit surrounds you and comforts you and that means that God sees you and that is more than enough!<br />
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<br />The Pastor's Wifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08327473182181529359noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8229591704148978711.post-47741740095418126192018-07-18T06:38:00.000-07:002018-07-24T04:11:44.914-07:00The Pastor's Wife: Assumptions!<br />
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The purpose of The Pastor's Wife blog is to encourage and be of service in word to every Pastor's wife. It is to give understanding that being married to a Pastor is not a job as some may view it to be, but it is most certainly a calling 📢 from God!🤔<br />
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It is hopefully a guide to every woman preparing or intending to marry 💍 a Pastor.<br />
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My name is Lynne Wareley and I am a Pastor's wife for 22 years. My husband's name is Bradley Wareley. We are the Pastoral couple at The Full Gospel Church, Cape Town, South Africa.<br />
We have known each other for 27 years, and we saw each other everyday (hint..hint..and that wasn't easy).<br />
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As you 👀 through a 🔎, the closer you get, the more clear and bigger the picture, but not to close though, otherwise the picture will be distorted.<br />
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It is often said or assumed that a Pastor's wife is aloof. But, that is far from the truth. The perception of who you think she is, is from an uninformed basis. Just ask the Pastor's wife, she won't fake it! If you still think she fakes, go figure it out and I hope you make it, so that you can relate.<br />
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